As you grow up in life, wondering about the people you met, the ones that make a difference and the ones that just passby without as much as raising an eyebrow. Although probably all did make a difference no matter how little it mattered, still perhaps maybe more curiously is the expectation you may have of that person. Though its better to expect nothing, than to be dissapointed and makes oneself miserable, still we will hope that person can do better than expected. Alas, one normally need to face many dissapointment.
Actually one shouldn't be too foolish, as we should always pratice 'managed expectations'. Know what to expect of that person and how she/he can perform. Probably lowered expectations work very well, most likely is what our bosses do to us all the time. Perhaps that's why I feel is always better to rely on ourselves than others to make ourselves fulfilled or as put your eggs in more basket as to protect yourself. But sometimes nothing is more rewarding than to see someone exceed your expectation. Though in certain circumstances, that can become a fake blue sky in the sense that the person is actually hiding the true nature.
And then you meet those who don't give you a proper first impression, sometimes this is a critical part of getting close to people as first impression almost determined whether there is a chance to develop. People more often more than now, are more judgemental than they seems, often biased and make harsh comments on people they don't really know. And when comments, criticism are wrongly intepret as harsh sarcasm, their temper get the best of them insinuating what was a small problem in the begining. You can choose to ignore these people, since they don't really mean anything to you but then why you get mad? Most of the time is your egoistic behaviour or the fact you think you are being wronged. Then, have you ever consider the other party intentions, aren't they being wrongly accused too because you misunderstood them?
Now, another those kind who perhaps are really too caring to be even bothered about anything. How ironic? You can consider them a dumbo, pretentious or plain innonence. But the truth is that they have too much in their heart to know which to care. They wander around life seemingly full of everything, thanking everything and knowing everything. But in the end, life may just ask them back, who do you really love? Because in the end, everyone knows you care about everyone but you never bother to trully know that someone. You do not know who to choose.
One of the long time ramblings in the mind. Finallydecided time it gotten posted...haha.
Actually one shouldn't be too foolish, as we should always pratice 'managed expectations'. Know what to expect of that person and how she/he can perform. Probably lowered expectations work very well, most likely is what our bosses do to us all the time. Perhaps that's why I feel is always better to rely on ourselves than others to make ourselves fulfilled or as put your eggs in more basket as to protect yourself. But sometimes nothing is more rewarding than to see someone exceed your expectation. Though in certain circumstances, that can become a fake blue sky in the sense that the person is actually hiding the true nature.
And then you meet those who don't give you a proper first impression, sometimes this is a critical part of getting close to people as first impression almost determined whether there is a chance to develop. People more often more than now, are more judgemental than they seems, often biased and make harsh comments on people they don't really know. And when comments, criticism are wrongly intepret as harsh sarcasm, their temper get the best of them insinuating what was a small problem in the begining. You can choose to ignore these people, since they don't really mean anything to you but then why you get mad? Most of the time is your egoistic behaviour or the fact you think you are being wronged. Then, have you ever consider the other party intentions, aren't they being wrongly accused too because you misunderstood them?
Now, another those kind who perhaps are really too caring to be even bothered about anything. How ironic? You can consider them a dumbo, pretentious or plain innonence. But the truth is that they have too much in their heart to know which to care. They wander around life seemingly full of everything, thanking everything and knowing everything. But in the end, life may just ask them back, who do you really love? Because in the end, everyone knows you care about everyone but you never bother to trully know that someone. You do not know who to choose.
One of the long time ramblings in the mind. Finallydecided time it gotten posted...haha.
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